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My Grace Notes.

~ IN MEMORY~

December 18, 2012

A  fun challenge was put to me by my good friend who was the original writer challenged by this prompt. The concept is easy, to express your life in 4 to 5 m music choices, preferably posting the challenge with the ability to hear the music such as videos. Music videos were used by my friend, and this is to be my medium as well.

Could you do this? Could you find 4 to 5 songs to describe or be reflective of your life? This challenge is extended to all of you.

Go ahead, and take a risk and try it. I dare you!

Beginning:

Growing up I was a faith filled resilient & self-reliant young child. Music was a large part of my life and my families, with both parents being involved and was a daily asset to my soul. Feeling the love of family, consistency, and spirit was all that I needed,  but this all changed when I was 9 yrs old. by my parents separation, Losing my faith in something powerful also happened at this time. This took me on a long self discovery journey from knowing that the loss of something more powerful than myself had to be found again. I searched, and I studied, and at the age  of 15 or 16 my spiritual epiphany came to be. This song  has sustained me and my way of living always since then. Both Eric Clapton & Stevie Winwood’s music individually, and together again, as they were in a reunion performance as Blind Faith was also very much part of this time in my life. If you want you know something about me you will find that I am a life long Eric (Epic ) Clapton fan. I have been impressed by not only by his music but the way he has grown into his own authentic life over the many years.

 

  From my young adult years until I was 38 yrs old I spent as an active full-time parent and foster parent. My life with children, who I surrounded myself with was and still is a passion I hold close to my heart.  This song is representative of  all the wishes & hopes I held for them. Although Rod Stewart was not an artist that I listened to much when this song was released I made sure immediately I dedicated this to the young daughters in my world; my own two daughters,, my niece, and the 3 foster girls I had in my heart & home during my daughters tween & teen years. I love being involved with children, and  even before I had my own daughters in 1972 I had 5th grade Campfire Girls. All 10 of them. Raising my children has been my most gratifying contribution to this world.

Finding  a point in my life when I realized that no matter how much  I wished for my life and world  to feed me,  sometimes they just did not. When I realized that there was an emptiness of my soul and spirit that was  needing to be fed,  my spirit roared right back. Finding ways to feed  my soul in ways I had not seen,, nor  ever known before. This song is about  coming out on the other side of that journey.

I’m Okay by Lissa Shaw~

 

With my faith comes making my life right. Though this will assuredly be raw feelings I am expressing with this The Rascal Flatt’s choice I am including it for what I would call my declaration song today. It is in keeping with my journey for living an authentic life, remaining honest, & true no matter how painful or vulnerable it might feel.

I am adding an extra sing/video because as regular readers of this blog know I have 3 lifelong friends I have known since birth. The Dirty Mothers. We four ladies had seen our selves in this movie in many ways. In particular my friend Lynn & I. This challenge could not be complete without this song being included. Crystal Vision by Stevie Nicks has also been a mainstay in my world since 1972 and still  is fitting well into my life at this moment in ways that never resonated with me before. I will add this song and its magical message as my way of saying out loud that I do believe in dreams, hopes as well as  life’s most-perfect & practical magic.

From The soundtrack of the motion picture Practical Magic the song Crystal Vision; written and performed by By Stevie Nicks

May wishing on a falling star bring all the practical magic necessary for a life full of truth & wisdom that feeds  your spirit and soul.

Note~ A Grace Note is a kind of music notation used to note several kinds of musical embellishment or flourishes within a piece of music.

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©tjhelser2012

Unspent Anger

THIS SONG – TODAY – SAVED MY SOUL

So what do you do with it? That kind anger that rolls around inside your heart giving you great reason to give pause. The kind that then causes me to ask if I am such a nice person, how can I hold anger in my heart for someone and still claim to be of goodness? I know the spiritual answer, Have That Down Pat. Don’t I?  It’s the emotional baggage that is a residual effect of unspent anger that I find I question.

Spending anger usually feels pretty good.  Awe,,, now come on… admit it. Even if it is just in the moment of the storm, isn’t that so sweet?  I have been known to enjoy a few “spout offs” as my grandmother would say. And don’t you know ladies; we as women folk should not get mad, angry or other wise upset. WE just should not, and definitely not in mixed company, God forbid. I say this tongue in cheek but; because I think it is a part of the background in many women’s cases that are near me generationally it has a valid point. (I’m sure that is not a legal word but I so like it)

Spent anger is a great release, it rids your body of the pent-up adrenalin just like that, it’s gone! Leaving instead the type of hangover relative to  that particular angst.

I’m curious what others do though. When you have reached a point in life where you have taught yourself not to engage and for the most part, this works really well. It helps to keep the limited contact you must have doable. Most of the time.

But when there are rare occurrences  how do you cope? what do you do?

I could get all caught up in the whys of being angry and start placing blame.Building more miserable history. I’d rather not though. I see it as a complete waste of energy which I could other wise direct back into the matter of living my life. But doing this and ridding myself of unspent anger are two completely different things. I refuse also to have to carry this anger around. It’s mine, I own it. Why not with do with it what I want?

I know it’s just a matter of finding a healthy way of releasing these emotions caused by my feelings that are involved. I have the Emotional Intelligence to work it out if I only give myself a chance. No knee jerk reactions need apply.

My release is words for sure, but not at someone, or about someone. The words that work for me are about feelings. This.

I put on some great music which today does not require having to change vinyl albums, flip them, or being called to the turn table over and over so I can listen to the great music of my life. I had no clue  however about the love affair I would soon be  having with YouTube…… Fabulous!! { A smiling shout-out to my maestro for this }

My way of dispensing that Unspent Anger in a healthy way has become more refined as I travel my journey in this universe. Today I load a play list on my laptop, not another thought is needed for the music. I usually turn it up loud for this purpose so I can feel the music tear into my soul. I bring up a fresh word page, blank space to fill with all that Unspent Anger. A perfect combination.

Rarely do these  written pieces go anywhere.. they are anything from hurt feelings to all out rage. Typically these pieces will be trashed after serving their purpose. Thankfully my blank white space can take it the abuse I throw at it. And it does not respond in like so getting IT ALL OUT is a sure thing. I am ever grateful for that.

I will listen to a song that really moves me, touches my soul deeply just as this Rascal Flatts tune above did for me today. I sing it loud and bold in a room with the best acoustics in the house, and I harmonize the anger away. I cannot tell you what song, most work any time, Some will speak louder to me on one day than the next. Mood is everything with music. And like magic music eases anger out of me just as if I was being played. Easing the words into a more mellow cadence.. my typing slows down….until finally… the words have spent the anger right on out of me. I must admit it is a marvelous technique that has taken me years to hone. And all along the journey has been amazing music.

Now it is your turn. Tell me how you deal with Unspent Anger. Or are you one of those brilliant people who can speak about their fury at the time of? I’m in admiration of you. I am unable to do so and consequently my hissy fits occasionally seem in the end to bite back.  So I will continue on singing and writing.

I’d love for you to share. Tag you  are it!

What is that you do with Unspent Anger? How do you tame it?

This Inquiring Baroness wants to know.

©tjhelser2012