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Wanted: Human Connections

The video below brought back to my consciousness something I have been thinking about for some time.  I find the video very uplifting in its creative nature and extremely inspiring. Maybe even the catalyst for this post finally coming to be. Sometimes the inspirational muse comes from very surprising places.

With the holiday season upon us my thoughts have become quite focused on human connections and interacting with each other
We as humans need and are nurtured by human contact. Through the history of our human nature we have been drawn together almost like magnets.
From the beginning of time humans have had a compulsion to connect with one another, to form communities, We know this intellectually and instinctively that we have a need & desire for connections with others.
We communicate of course with our voices, eyes, faces, hands, touch, and body language. The common ways we exchange ideas, thoughts & feelings when we’re able to be in the same air space, this lets us see and feel what another is living.
We are naturally empathetic and sympathetic people.
But what happens to the quality and genuineness of our communications if we remove the ways I outlined in how we communicate?

Communication & interacting with one another is so strong a desire and/or need that we use other methods to express and communicate even when we are physically apart. We have always been compelled to stay in touch even with great distances. From messenger on horseback, stage-coach, and the pony expresses to text & instant messaging today, it has become far more convenient to remain in touch.
Despite the frequency and conveniences for these interactions today I wonder if we are not missing out on something very tangible and irreplaceable..
My personal feelings are that this has only detracted from the quality of communicating with one another. In my humble opinion we are becoming a society of anonymity and I am concerned that we also are losing our ability to have empathy for one another. With the wonder and advent of the technological advancements we have less reason to go outside our own comfort. Consequently we do far less interacting with one another; we have fewer practical needs in managing our lives where interacting with others is the normal routine of living.
  With the click of mouse we can have our entire life managed logistically from behind a computer monitor or a smart phone today. Even voice to voice calls has become a chose du passé.
An email or text? More prudent?
With texting, email, instant messaging, Facebook, chat rooms, and yes even blogs as our modes of how we stay in touch we have less need to be together in person. Less logistical needs that is. I dare say we also have strong emotional needs to be together, and to interact in person. 
I watch, and I participate…yet still with some reluctance and reservations 
In my way of thinking we are losing some very important aspects of communications.
Without the enhancements to our communicating by the abilities to see one another eye to eye, face to face, in person, without our hands describing ‘what a spiral is’ or our voice inflections, we lose pertinent content in communications which typically help bring the full picture into view.
Without our voice inflections, our hand gestures, or the ability to look one another in the eye we really only have words.
(Think conversation in monotone.)
How much about what is being said is also being left out of the full picture when we don’t have those added enhancements?
I watch and am often baffled how in some senses we are isolating more and more despite living in very urban communities. Some people go without any contact or touch from anyone significant in their life by choice. Some even go without ever having anyone personal or impersonal in their world, completely isolating, rarely seeing another soul, nor hearing another voice.

I question what this is doing to our ability to empathize with each other..

Emotions that are unattached for instance to typed words via today’s convenient forms of communicating are we creating a society where we are  more and more disengaging emotionally from each other? 
The face to face, the in person times of communicating are becoming less and less. We with our busy lives naturally find the easier and more convenient route to reaching out and touching someone,
Are we losing something in the process?
Yet with all that being said, and questions being posed, I still find there are positives in the advent of computers and the Wide World Web.
Our ways of interacting and communicating have changed us and .I being a lie-time student of human nature am fascinated by the changes we’ve already seen in the world today. Changes in how global boundaries have shrunk, how the oceans have virtual bridges that enable us to cross without ever leaving our homes or offices. We can connect with people and cultures that without we might never have otherwise.
I am despite my concerns for what our modes of communications and the platforms we use today might mean for our near future I am yet grateful that we have this technology. for it brought me you. 
If we use it wisely and with care it can be an exciting and positive spin on how we communicate today and open the doors to new possibilities.

Even though…we have never met…even though we live different parts of the World… AND in different time zones, I just want you to know how much I appreciate you and love you.  For it is through you and your vibration that THE PLANET IS shifting from the darkness into the light.



You Can’t Direct The Wind But You Can Direct Your Sails

I have been spending quite a bit of my attention lately on focusing & reflecting on human relationships; This has brought me a realization that we as humans attract what our souls need during particular times in our lives, I know it’s not an original thought on my part, it just struck me recently that even those interactions that I see now as toxic still brought lessons I needed desperately to learn. I’ll not see this as regrets.

That someone you are with at any given time is bringing to your spirit just what it is you need to learn from that particular interaction,That someone will bring out in you those life lessons necessary to find your own truths and authenticity. 

Depending on the level
of intimacy (directing your own tailwinds) will dictate how vulnerable you will allow yourself to be with another .And frankly with yourself. But if we remember that everything we see in another is exactly what we are needing to see in ourselves it might allow us more emotional investment’s.
Mirroring those vulnerabilities with kindness toward not just others but just as importantly towards “Self” helps to get connected in ways that will feed our spirit. And in turn we help feed others.

If we can look upon our relationships with this in mind it can become a natural flow to then find a true kindness towards our self and towards others. Kindness that may very well be the remedy for so much in our own small world of worlds. It merely needs to start within and for ourselves.
Before we convince ourselves that there is nothing a given interaction can bring to our lives we might want to stop, reflect, & examine. Being mindful that which we see in another is just what we need to see in ourselves equates to Life Lessons.
No judgements.
No blame.
Just is.
Past and current relationships in my life have become life lessons intertwined with those interactions. During times when I couldn’t see the light at the end of ANY tunnel it has become my saving grace knowing that I am able to see the light shine with the much-needed warmth from someone else.
In someone else I find the lessons reflected in what I need to know to live more authentically.
 I didn’t always have the grace to direct my sails towards a rocky harbor.  
When presented with a behavior (rocky harbor) or a way of thinking by another that feels conflicted within my own scruples I balked. I judged. I certainly was not feeling abundant unconditional love & kindness.
Now with more emotional intelligence I know this is mirroring hat which I still must still learn. 
Learning to live with abundant love for others and for our selves is a kindness we are all worthy of finding, and though we may tend to think of being kind to our selves as something akin to being self-centered… it’s truly not.
Through the interactions with relationships in our life we can learn the fine arts of unconditional love, forgiveness, and the kindness of acceptance. Even the negatives we find in relationships can bring the positives if we see them as life lessons.
Trust me, I am not suggesting abusive behavior, intolerance, and judgement of others are that of which we should ever accept. I definitely do not advocate for staying in any relationship that is harmful to you physically, emotionally and/or spiritually. I do though know from personal experience that even in this type of relationship there was a great value in the lessons about myself I learned. I choose now to see it as such, rather than hold on to the resentment & anger that only starves my spirit.
Like the four key points o a compass these four key points will help direct your emotional sails
Unconditional Love.
Unconditional Forgiveness.
Unconditional Kindness.
Unconditional Acceptance.
There is an authentic grace knowing the great wisdom of practicing these four directions. Others will see the light in our faces when we are loving in these directions without any conditions,
If we can know this and trust this it helps release the light inside of any personal entanglement;;illuminating the shadows. It can take us to wonderful heights, the ups and downs of navigating any relationship. It just might become apparent that these ups and downs can bring us clarity & strength.
These ups and downs help us to remain grounded and balanced.
We might ask ourselves; what it is that our soul is longing to discover from each person who comes into our lives? It can bring into focus that it really is all about love being the mainstay that feeds what our souls need. To not be so leery or too cautious of what these interactions will bring us leaves our hearts and our minds open.
Embracing the shining lights we may see ins eyes of others, being open to what messages they hold allows our hearts be open, and we feel more approachable to the person we are connecting with. There is always wisdom for our spirits within each other  and the beauty of this is we need no special tools or training to receive and accept these. The things we see in another are maybe the most important things we can pay attention to. The kinds of things that touch our hearts if we just tap in. This very well can bring us that sense of being complete, and allows us to surround our lives with the presence of unconditional love with a genuine authenticity
My life lessons now includes this big paradox about the relationships in my life, that they in fact depend very much on the relationship I have with myself. These relationships that are so significant for me are mirrors of myself, they reflect not only how I am seen by others., but how I see myself.  And that’s pretty cool.
There is always a choice which path to take in our journey so that which our spirit is searching for our authentic self will lead us to.  As if by instincts, if we quiet ourselves, and open our heart every time we feel lost, If we listen, if we engage with others they can bring to our spirits love & life lessons that shape who we are..
If we share openly with those who we surround our small worlds we create deep spiritual connections.
Connections with the human spirit bringing us ever closer to living a life of authenticity, we will find that in knowing our self so intimately that we can become the master of our own destiny.




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On Mindfulness: This Moment In Time.

Through all these times 

I wondered about:

 the wounds of my soul,

all the mistakes, 

and all of the miracles.


Through the tears,

through the laughter,

along the side.

I obsessed.

I sighed.


And then

I begin 

to let go. 




letting go,

 always returning 

to the silence.

Over and over.

It heals my soul.


I am certain this is not news to anyone that trying to live a philosophy or concept you believe in 100% can still be trying. 

For instance just the day to day logistics can try to get in the way, and old habits are hard to break even when you want to. 


Some say Being Mindful of the Moment is just an expression, I disagree. “No surprise there” I hear someone saying. 

it’s true I believe mindful is a verb.


I often use to find myself feeling needy of knowing what tomorrow would bring. Today I know this is a feeling I do not have to react to, it is not my need to know what tomorrow will bring. 

Because in all honesty my future is not where I want to be. I want to be mindful of just this moment. I want to be fully present in the here and now.

But because often with that needing to know I could also make myself wicked crazy waiting for the answers.


I could. 

I did.

For some time. 


It has only been in the last decade of my life that the realization and wisdom come to me that fretting over what tomorrow or even hours from now will bring serves no rational purpose. Least of all it does not serves me.  

I’ve researched, studied, observed, absorbed, and experimented with ways to help myself remain mindful of Staying in the Moment. I needed some lessons, teachings, or maybe some magic tricks that would help me remember to be mindful.

It is too easy to fall back into old habits, old ways of thinking, even when we are trying to change our thinking to grow and enhance our life’s journey


Once I had some logistics in place, some ‘teachings’ I could grasp, that which allow now to be gently reminded to remain in this moment by practicing these lessons daily. 


First three teachings:

1. Practice Self-Love.  (Another verb.)

2. Practice Self-Compassion 


3 Practice Self-Forgiveness


Practicing even one of these teachings helped me remain grounded, to retain a balance in my small world in the beginning. I say go slow..

It was quite remarkable how when I chose just one teaching that seemed like magic in that it helped decrease my level of predilection for wanting (read need) to know what the future is going to bring. 


How do we remain in the moment, to stay mindful of the here and the now? It’s the only space of time that matters. This time.. right no.w

In the spirit of this blog I’d like to share the teachings that work for me. My wish is that you are able to take something away, and please be welcome to leave something behind in your comment.

  • I wear or carry “totems” (an Native North American term) sometimes also referred to as prayer beads, worry stones, or even amulets. My affinity for doing so came from my youth. I found great comfort in a “smoothed by time” river rock in the shape of a flat heart.  I found beautiful comfort in holding its warm stone between my forefinger and thumb, or in the closed palm of my hand. I loved the connection with earth as a girl, I treasure it now as an adult woman.

  • *On Mediation: I prefer to mediate regularly; typically it is once every day for at least 15-20 minutes. I found it is that regular practice of meditation that really starts to shape my mind and the way it works. I have heard that this has been backed up by the latest brain studies. I find it easier to maintain focus, have that stillness of mind I am looking for. Being mindful is becoming my norm.


  • Journaling: This is probably not a surprise to those of you who know a bit about me. Keeping a daily journal of my goals and my accomplishments while articulating (what I like to think are wise thoughts) into my way of living can be remarkably effective. Absolutely it’s a habit that requires practice. A lot of practice. Journaling at night when I can’t sleep and reviewing in the morning helps keep these teachings alive throughout the day.

  • Reminder Notes: By placing inspirational/motivational notes, and self-affirmations around my small world (as done even on this post) these become helpful reminders for staying grounded and not getting distracted. This can be favorite quote, important concept, notes from loved ones,  or even a short narrative or a poem. A personal favorite are two prayers sent from a very good friend who is one of my spiritual mentors.


  • Mind-fullness Alarms:  I loved this teaching especially when I began my quest of mindfulness. Although I don’t do this as a norm anymore; setting alarms to go off at regular intervals throughout the day can be a very effective teaching to help kick-start good mindful habits. This is especially helpful when marathon writing by the way. Having that reminder alarm helps me to get out of my head for a time with regularity.  

It is also important I believe to note of what to be mindful of. Buddhists refer to this as the Right Thought and Right View. 

 Things that consume us during the day, like anger, fear, worry, or frustration, comes from unwise or misguided perspectives. Having a wider & more open mind to other perspectives than our own is a big help. I heard once about a very effective practice of referring to the issues of certain circumstances in our life as “third-world problems”. This is short-hand for a reminder that while dealing with issues we think are monumental, we might instead be mindful that there are people in our world who don’t have access to enough to eat.

It is all about perspectives.

And how we think.

 Can this kind of daily practice of mindfulness achieve a state of bliss In The Moment? 

For thousands of years, practitioners have reported greater happiness and tranquility when we are able to stay In The Moment’ 


 So….I think… I shall stay right here in this moment….this here and now – and absorb it for all its worth. 

And this moment in time? 




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Ignite Me!


Greetings & Happy People!   Today’s post is something different for me. I rarely post other sites or other people’s work here at Lady Barefoot Baroness. But finding this in my inbox today has made me second guess my scruples on this. When there is fabulous information and or places to go, see, & do  I have decided some of the information warrants sharing. This is one of those times.

From a musician friend I was hooked up with this organization and grateful for such amazing information that helps me navigate my  life, and more important helps us help each other.  There are many things as artists we can do to help lend our hand to doing some good in our world. Again, this is one of those times.

Please if you would, spend a few minutes and acquaint yourself with IGNITE.ME.com.  The page I have posted is their Consciousness category, be aware that they have many different categories; so if this not your ( as my favorite  English Gentleman says); “If this  is not your cup of tea “ keep reading.

And should you feel so inclined to join, welcome aboard ~


A community for art and forward-thinking ideas,
Embracing openness, inclusion, and human connection


Happiness Strategies: The Science and Pursuit of Bliss

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A few years ago, I found myself torn up over unrequited love. Rejection was quicksand that kept my mind stuck in the past. I replayed the heartbreaking moment over and over. Why had this man robbed me of a perfect future? Why couldn’t he see how happy we would be?



Posted by on Tuesday, April 23rd, 2013 with 5 Comments

Finding Happiness in the Hemispheres of the Brain

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I enjoy all species of Burning Man theme camps, from Bacchanalian to buttoned-down. In 2005, my favorite theme camp was everything Burning Man is reputed not to be: relaxing, peaceful and nourishing. With spiritual statuary and curtains and cushions in rich hues of blue, magenta, orange and green, the place looked like an Indian meditation […]



Posted by on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013 with 4 Comments

Lucid Dreams: Merging Fantasy and Reality

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A few years ago, I experienced my first lucid dream, a dream I was able to consciously control. It was a beautiful dream which changed the course of my life. At the time, I was dealing with intense fear in my personal life. My dream began in this place of fear.



Posted by on Friday, April 5th, 2013 with 12 Comments

Pros and Cons of Immortality

Transhuman version of Sistine Chapel

Are you afraid of dying? Most of us are, to some extent. Through the work of the world’s first immortality research center, Russian Internet mogul Dmitry Itskov is planning to make death irrelevant. Called the 2045 Initiative, Itskov wants to give investors the option of allowing their minds to live forever in robot bodies. Eventually, […]



Posted by on Friday, March 22nd, 2013 with 15 Comments

What Our Memories Say About Us

Melting Watch by Salvador Dali

A few days ago, I got into a heated discussion with a friend. By the end of the argument, we were both saying things like, “But you said this…” and “That’s not how I remember it.” At that point, we weren’t even arguing over the original topic. We were disputing our different versions of what […]



Posted by on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013 with 10 Comments

7 Lessons About Wisdom

Owl painting by Harvin Alert

Are you wise? If so, I want to be like you. I’m on what will surely prove to be a lifelong quest for wisdom. I have my sage moments, but emotions and a tendency towards impulsive behavior sometimes wreck wise decisions for me. That’s why I’ve set a goal to learn from every situation so […]



Posted by on Thursday, March 7th, 2013 with 9 Comments

The Science of Consciousness: Can We Measure Emotional Energy?

Group prayer

Have you ever felt moved by the energy of a crowd? Maybe you’ve felt a heaviness in the air at funerals, or you’ve experienced an electric buzz at concerts or at a sporting event. I’ve felt these things. Personally, I never choose to watch baseball on TV, but I happily go to games because I […]



Posted by on Monday, February 4th, 2013 with 6 Comments

Cognitive Dissonance: How Our Minds Deal With Conflicting Ideas

Kontemplation by Alex Grey

I love debating open-minded people. It’s fun to exercise my old brain in this way. Sometimes, I teach. Usually, I’m the one being taught. I’d rather take a pass on debating people who decided long ago to reject all ideas beyond the ones they already hold. It’s frustrating to discuss issues with those who’ve already […]



Posted by on Tuesday, January 29th, 2013 with 2 Comments

Optical Delusions: The Problem with “Seeing is Believing”

3D Street Art, by Kurt Wenner

I’ll never forget my first deep dive. I was in the Bay Islands, Honduras, and my scuba instructor was Morgan, the raving mad Irishman. Even though he’d never lived in the U.S., he had a giant tattoo of the Oakland Raiders on his shoulder. His teeth were filed into sharp points. “The better to eat […]



Posted by on Wednesday, January 23rd, 2013 with 0 Comments

What’s Missing from Vampire Stories: How Immortality Would Really Change You

Vampire Dawn by Avelina de Moray

Love them or hate them, vampires are in your face. They’re all over books and the big and small screens – and they’re likely here to stay. We’re fascinated with vampires because they represent our shadow side. They’re dark and mysterious, and through them we get to explore physical immortality. By living vicariously through vampires, […]



Posted by on Thursday, January 17th, 2013 with 4 Comments






The Art of Doing Nothing At All..


I’m trying to practice the art of “doing nothing at all.” And to do it well.

Are you feeling frazzled?

Feeling overwhelmed by life?

I am going to suggest that if you are spinning your wheels – over and over –  regarding the same things every day, every week, that you step back for a moment while you ponder these words below.  Just think about them.

Do you find when it is suggested to you by loved ones, friends or even your doctor to relax, to take a deep breath that you panic at the thought? All that needs to be done suddenly comes flooding over you in the form of “To Do Lists.” Just like the dozens of generations before us we are also “To Do Lists” creators. We seem to have to be always in the process of accomplishing something. To NOT have such momentum leads us immediately in to thinking that something is wrong.  Thinking at the very least we are being lazy. To find ourselves with time on our hands or worse yet to we find ourselves wandering and meandering all the while filling moments up with “Nothing At All’s.”  This fills us with dreaded anxiety.

For the state of “Doing Nothing At All” feels like it is on the outer edge of life’s norms. It’s a luxury. It’s the impossible dream we talk about one day doing. In reality though we just cannot bring ourselves to give permission for this. It goes against everything our parents and theirs before them taught us.

That’s some of the shame I have personally discovered.

In the days of future’s past we indeed dare not have one idle moment or we were likely to either not eat, be eaten, or possibly die. But with today’s modern stresses just the opposite is so.  If we do not learn to slow down, to “whoa it up”  if you like, we are going to die much too early anyway. Still  we as a species fight what science has been telling us. We are too proud.

The shame in this I think is that we do not know anymore how to play. To relax; to have free time to be child like.

Know how to procrastinate with intentional purpose. Procrastinate and Be Proud of it

 This is too simple a concept to want to accept. I know.

I have been working on finding ways to stay mindful that there is something more to life than I have been putting forth and that it’s my choice whether or not I live a peaceful and content life, not just an existence. Peaceful and content,  Or not. If not my choice than whose?

In a mind over matter kind of way I have in the course of my latest excavation of My Self been finding relics of wisdom that help me stay mindful of the big picture. For me again this is a sense of self peace and contentment. I know I am not alone on this journey and I am not alone is trying to discover the tools that best excavate or dig up the best resources and ideas.

I think of our days as journeys in our life which I believe is what’s it’s all about, not the destination. Like a lazy river we tend to meander and to get side tracked much like that river does. We wander through much of life distracted and not mindful of the moments. We create under currents, whirl pools, and even now & then a few little streams of new adventures, We are like waterfalls, thirsting for the knowledge in the pools that reflect like mirrors that form on the surface. All so very much just like the natural course that a river takes on its journey. We don’t question the rivers meandering, we accept it a part of Mother Nature. Why do we fight our own nature?

Instead of accepting these gentle obstacles as part of the natural course of our own life, we fight it. We punish ourselves for even having those “procrastinating” meandering thoughts. We flood our psyches with ever ancient self chatter about how doing anything that might remotely appear to be “goofing-off” is something to run from. We absolutely feel a sense of shame if we relent and wander. But we are compelled to. Its part of our nature. We fight this “Art of Doing Nothing At All” Doing Anything At All is not what we brag about. It’s not what we mention when someone says, “So what have you been up to?”

And if we do actually accept & allow ourselves the natural inevitable flow of time with a meander and doing nothing at all for a moment in that time we then rush about later thinking we certainly made a big blunder of a choice. We find ourselves feeling the need to make up for that “lost” time. Then begins the verbal dressing down with our self. The guilt sets in.

When a river finds itself in front of itself an obstruction from its dalliance of journey it invariably takes a meander in around about path to navigate the obstacle or distraction. Gently trickling by in its own time. It accepts the obstacle as an opportunity to create a new stream. In its slow wandering ways it takes its own sweet time. The meandering takes the river to places it had not been. maybe even creating new streams.The river still has its work – its purpose in life then becomes the meanderings in response to the obstacles. This may have even served great purpose in that the forest floor is nourished from the under water springs the river discovered in its wandering.

Dong Nothing At All can bring upon our own under ground springs I have discovered. Doing really “Nothing At All” can bring its own rewards. We could be mindlessly coursing through our day and stop at an item on our To Do List such as to dust furniture. Simple mindless work that someone has to do, yet it is one of my pet peeves. Instead of getting from point A to B and getting on with dusting I come to this same table every week where there is a basket of newspapers and magazines waiting beside it to be recycled. It will be fine I told myself, 5 minutes tops. Like I do every time. So I began sorting and stacking the newspapers & magazines. I had music on…..  But then……I lose track of time.. I start to meander. I begin to wander. I am like a vagabond on a journey through typed words. My kind of heaven. My obstacle every time are these newspapers & magazines. I love to open the pages (again) and search for what I probably missed. I look for what kind of prompts I find to write about, to maybe discuss. I do it almost every time I dust that table where the basket is that they collect. Forty-Five minutes later I am finally leafing through the last week old newspaper. I am almost done.

And then……

I kick myself for the time lost,  for the idle procrastination of it all. 45 minutes out the window with nothing to show for my time. I can hear my mother now.” Really? This is how you are using your time management skills?” My mama’s voice in my head. Then the self-retribution starts. Suddenly I immediately forfeit the joy of what I had been doing because I was raised to believe this is wrong, this is lazy. This is procrastinating. I am wasting time. Precious time I have been taught to not squander. For me my meanderings may take me through an obstacle throughout my daily journey. The recycling has been an an obstacle for me for years. Something I have spun my wheels over time and again.

But change my ways? Oh No. Give up that precious meander? Huh-uh.

 I had no clue this was what I was doing. I was letting Mother Nature take her course through and with me. We are just like nature in so many ways. How could we not be when like this earth which is 70% water is also the same as the bodies we live in. I caught myself this time in the midst of my wandering through old news print. While my intent has been to dust furniture, I wander to the newspaper basket every time. Do I really expect a different outcome? Do I really want one?

This was my epiphany.

Maybe all my procrastination is not an idle waste of time. Maybe there is a message of internal peace of mind and contentment mixed up in there. I am thinking that like the river who meanders in all directions as Mother Nature takes her course;  maybe so it is with my meandering self as well.

Before I gather up and re-fold old newspaper pages I sit back in a typical meditative position and just think about this a moment. I begin asking myself why do I do this every time I dust this table? There has to be something in it that is feeding me. I must be getting something out it. Why else would I keep beating my head against this dusty table’s edge and keep repeating my actions?

Then I saw it! 

As I sat there just staring at the mess I had created right smack in the middle of all that newsprint was the large bold type faced print: ” STOP PROCRASTINATING NOW!” Seriously?

The Universe alone knows what it was referring to because no sooner had I read this before my mind was off at the block running wild and free with this very post topic. What I had been doing was meandering and wandering once again through pages I had read once before; when all of a sudden this thought that procrastination and meandering were the same things came flooding over me. Its a peaceful thing this meandering.

Two things this experience taught me.

1. Ideas come in the strangest forms and from strange mediums if you only have your eyes and heart open,

2.) That I can find value in procrastination. This is what fed me every time I stopped to sort newspapers and magazine. Some meandering time. Simply put thiss is what I get out of it and why I continue.

Too simple isn’t it?

Knowing that in order for me to be of any value to others I have to value myself first. To those who may have not figured this out yet I understand. I am just seeing it myself. It has taken me a long time to see the truth in this. We work on our relationships with those we love trying to enhance them. So why do we stop with our selves?  Why do we not work on the relationship with our self first?

We need to focus on our own hearts, our own peace, at our own pace….some of the time.

At least once a week let’s be the first person we think of when we wake in the morning. Be it the power walk you keep promising yourself, or perhaps another opportunity knocking on your door for some meandering. Or the juicy novel you have been saving for a rainy day. Possibly it even could be looking at your own reflection and affirming one positive attribute about yourself; an honest one that is meaningful.

Peace of mind can be an exotic endangered species like the exotic wild flower the Trillium from the forest floors. It is not something to ever take for granted. If you remove (pick) the Trillium from its forest floor it does not grow back; as an endangered the species will die off. I have discovered peace of mind & heart as well as feeling content are choices I can make. And one of the simplest ways I can help bring this to my life is a good old fashion meander & wander.

Lest you worry about not burning any calories while meandering you’ll be missing the point but know that it takes as much energy to resist being productive as it does to work out at the gym for an hour. ( Honest. I believe everything I read, so should you.. ha! )

So whistle yourself a lovely tune, and put away your “To Do Lists”. Take a meander of your own right.

You deserve it Friends.




Intentional Fundamentals

Recently I have been writing a lot about being mindful of gratitude. I write, document, and archive what my self-reflections have blessed me with. I record these thoughts so when I am in doubt that this pat is my direct course to peace, balance and feeling grounded. Living with intentional fundamentals is a choice I am making. One that I can lives with.

It has been a fabulously interesting lesson of life, with my results feeling like I am a child quieting and calming myself after a tantrum, I blink back the tears of gratitude, and I began seeing the world through new eyes.

This was an awakening for me. It has caused me to be quite engulfed with emotions. Learning to risk again, and trusting to know that what I am feeling is relevant and is credible..

Things I second guessed about in life became quite clear. In the clarity of these reflections came about my life lessons, when I adhere to this manifesto to living my life with intentional fundamentals the things I found to be true are awakened in my soul, and my heart is set free to love, to live, to feel Peace in all that I do, And all that I am.

This is what I now know:

Intentional fundamentals. I do not own these fundamentals, I did not create them. But I do believe once my eyes were open wide that it became as important to share what I have discovered for myself as it is to live these with great intentions.

• Be present in the moment. I Have touched on this, but let say that I believe this is our responsibility, to decide to be so. Be intentional. Savor positive outcomes AND if the outcomes is not what you are looking for make appropriate changes. Make a different choice if the out come is negative. Learn from what you have just experienced. Also I recalled something my mother use to tell me If in doubt just react, make some decision, doing nothing is indeed even a decision we make. I shall no longer be a victim to the negatives in life.

Happiness never last forever. And the sooner this is realized the better for all involved. Not one thing in life can maintain intensity forever. Life is good, life is bad. Ying Yang for living. We would do well to remember it is NOT the outcome, but the process that matters

• Evaluate what your morals, values and scruples are. Good or Bad we choose them. What are your life’s most prized possession’s? Success? Wealth? Tangibles? Intangibles? Things or people?

• Feelings about life are not who we are. (unless we choose to let them rule our lives ) They should not have to make us who we are.(of course unless we make the choice to be) We can intentionally choose to “let go” of negative feelings. (anger, hurt, sadness, etc….) a traumatic life history, a frustrating present predicament…..are examples. Failing in the past to react accordingly and appropriate should not influence any current or future decisions you make. Opportunities missed are choices made.

• Habits help us create our character and the way we view each other and the world. Behaviors from childhood that were taught to us by our parents , siblings, and acquaintances are what we base our formed habits from. We began deciding early on whether we would continue the learned behavior, or make the changes that best suit our personal wants and needs. This forms who we are; our personalities if you will. Habits help the way we are identified  (by others) and by who we choose to keep company with. We choose to rise above, to shine things on, follow the crowd, or wallow in our despair. Positivity and positive habits enable us to find the positive life experiences in our journeys

• Delivered to Self-Acceptance. A gift you give o yourself. Measure who you are by your willingness to learn from being challenged, by your ability to make changes, and the strength in your character (your spirit) to never give up.

Be happy in your own skin, and accept the differences in others.

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What I Know About Everything Signifigant

Above all else it is about leaving a mark that I existed. I was here. I was hungry. I was defeated. I was happy. I was sad. I was in love. I was afraid. I was hopeful. I had an idea and I had a great purpose and that is why I make works of art.”~ Felix Gonzalez-Torres

Today I know now that life itself is a work of art, one in which we all have a great purpose in. We create art in our life on a daily basis. Do you know that You are your own masterpiece?

I have been conscientious of late for the need to try and remain mindful of today, of the “now” in my life. It is not a new belief concept for me, but it requires patience and focus. My patience is being tested lately.This has made me forgetful and has helped me to lose my focus of just the here and now. Staying mindful to enjoy just what I have now.

I am realizing that to also be grateful for the things I don’t think about as often would go a long ways to the gentle reminders I need to be able to remain in the now . Reminders to not to get caught up in the problems of yesterday or the worries of tomorrow. Instead, simply being mindful of all things significant in my life is far better than snapping a rubber band against ones wrist. Don’t ask. Just trust me on this.

I ask myself what about the little things? The things in my life I take for granted, What are those little things that serve to be reminders for me. And why are they significant if they are such little things?

There are things I take for granted that if my life was suddenly was spun to another world and was left without the things I am used to where would I be?

I am a grateful person usually by nature. I believe in gratitude and expressing thanks. I am often aware of feeling grateful for the obvious gifts in life. Gifts like my Faith, my Hopes, my Dreams, on being loving, on being loved, on peacefulness and contentment. These are the things happiness can be built on. I am thankful each morning and night for these gifts. And for those in my life who are my gifts.

Yet there are those small, seemingly unimportant things in my life I would not want to be without. They are significant to my style of home spun happiness.

There are a few others in my life I’d like to be more aware of how significant they are to me in a mindful way. Making a point of being grateful for the “small things” and not taking advantage of or assuming they will always be there.

A few honorable mentions I am grateful for from my world


For one immediate stand out I look no further than the very keyboard I type this on. And the magic of the Internet I do not even pretend to understand. Ironically for a lady who is m not a fan of technology it has become important form of communication for me. I know what it is like now to be without again even though even for just a couple of days. I’ll not take it for granted, instead I will be mindful of the gifts it brings to my life each day.


I am grateful I can journal, and feel good about the cathartic expression as well as the personal growth I gain from my introspective reflections. Journal writing started early for me but it was not until my 19th year of living did I take my cues from a philosopher of life.

Seneca, the Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman and dramatist, suggested the idea of “self observation” by making a daily self-inventory of ourselves, by asking as we bring our day and evening to a close the questions of yourself. His suggested questions work for me.

“What bad habit have you cured today?

What fault have you resisted?,

In what respect are you better?”

This ritual of asking and answering for that day’s behavior & actions helps me to be reminded of the times when I am not living as graciously as I could. I am able to sort out the day’s events and process any feelings through my journaling.

Cloth Napkins

I know, threw you for a loop there did I? Cloth napkins are an indulgence I feel good about. I rarely use paper products, specifically paper napkins or paper towells. I have both in my home but prefer cloth napkins and cloth hand towells. It feels like a luxury with every meal to use a cloth napkin that I adore. I’m an extremely texture oriented person and am not a fan of the feel of paper napkins. I am most grateful for being able to use cloth napkins.

My Neighborhood:

One of the things I know I take advantage of and am rarely mindful of is when my neighborhood is quiet. There are times when the I just want the solitude and false misconception that I am all alone in my ‘hood. That the absolute quiet means that everyone has left for the day. (weekends in the Summer) and I have this whole world to myself. This is my favorite time to walk about in the ‘Hood, and meet the neighbors pets, look at the gardens, yes even in winter most have some architectural designs that I admire and are only visable when the foliage has gene into hibernation.

Water & Music

I love a hot bath with music at the same time. Candles are optional.

There is a restorative calm that seeps into every muscles, tendons, and my body’s entire set collection of nerve endings. I am magically transformed from the moment of stepping into the hot & fragranced water and the first few chords of a tune such as  Snowy White singing his blues when both his guitar and his voice starts to fill the room.

I think I am in heaven on earth then, Yet I take it for granted and never give it a second  thought. I have this music that will melt away anything negative that is hanging about. I take for granted having the clean abundant water that can be easily heated, and assume  my stereo that I can move about the house at will is always be there for me. I have this gift of being sent  a new artist’s  name & music from a close friend that can take away the worst kind of day.  The musician is  Snowy White  and his song I speak of is called  “Midnight Blues” I will say you certainly do not only use this song for a bath at midnight. {It works any time of day or tonight I have discovered.} But a word of caution: If you are like me and like to watch the artist play the music, and are wanting to watch Snowy White play the blues,  Do Not Attempt this in your bath. It can be hazardous to you health.

It is a soul grabber, and I am grateful to and for my dearest friend who knows what kind of music it is that moves me.

I know that you can not create happiness out of nothing at all, and that it takes a “Whole Lotta Love” and everyday significance. I know that I have been remiss of being mind-fully appreciative of many of the small things in my world that hold great significance, I hope to now have reminders that will prompt me to stop, take a deep breath and realize where I am at this moment in time.

Lastly,  I know I am able to touch my happiness because of these small things in my life that are very significant to me. They help create my own masterpiece.

Signature 2013