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When It’s Time To Quit

I can fake a smile.

I can pretend that I’m okay…

but I’m only in denial.

My hearts been chained…

been imprisoned by shame.   ~ A 2011 state of mind:

 

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Time doesn’t always look you in the face. Quite often time is what holds us in the balance of our choices. 

Do you ever wonder why we do some things in our lives over and over despite knowing it will not result in any different outcome? Repeatedly, every time?  Probably results that we know do not serve us.

Decisions for me were times in my life when I struggled. There were these inevitable arguments between my instincts and life’s external/internal expectations. The arguments would paralyze me. Not making any decision is A decision, a decision to remain stuck. That thing we call “time” ran on while I chose to remain behind. My choice had been to remain stuck in the same place because I was stranded in the balance of not deciding. I’m certain I don’t need to explain the pathology behind my chronic indecisiveness to most, nor explain the certain kind of bliss of not taking any ownership for making a decision. If I didn’t decide I couldn’t be blamed. Right?

Denial feels like a wonderful thing….for a awhile. Denial helps support indecisiveness in multitude of ways. Repeating not making decisions was not serving me, it was actually just another form of denial.

When finally I found I could no longer fake the smiles I began to make decisions that started to unchain my heart. Shame began to fall away.

Transparency Time.

I knew things were off for a long time, I mean 10 plus years of a “longtime.” Those misguided notions I chose to let my heart ignore. All that was off in my life; it all began to mess with my emotional intelligence, and this finally messed with my spiritual health, which in turn messed with my physical health.

To be as transparent about this “longtime” as I can let me say I had found the only way to cope with all that I was denying was to get numb. Because I was dealing with physical health issues I had convinced myself I needed pharmaceutical medications to function mentally and physically. With hindsight the truth is the medications helped me stay in denial, it helped me to remain numb to the pain, both physical and mental. This treatment modality helped me stay stuck. So much in denial was I that it took major life alterations for myself to begin to feel again.

Which meant having to make decisions.

Some extremely frightening decisions had to be made by myself if I ever intended to expect different results; if I ever expected a resemblance of emotional and physical health again.What I had been doing by doing nothing certainly was not working except to keep me stuck. Time didn’t stick though and I was losing a lot of it. Too much of it.

A decision had to be made. Decisions had to become part of my game plan. Denial was no longer working. Faking a smile was no longer getting me by.

NOT making a decision WAS a decision. One that in time I could no longer live with.

Deciding to make major lifestyle changes was frightening but staying stuck was scaring me more.

I began the long task of excavating myself to discover what it was that wasn’t working for me and I made drastic changes.

The first one I made was possibly the most important change. I changed my habit of over-thinking everything, every step, every move. I made a vow to begin the change and decided to listen to my instincts while learning to trust them versus the dwelling of second guessing.

Making decisions about everything from my marital status, removing toxic medications and toxic relationships were the most difficult choices to make for this lady who typically found it a struggle to decide what to take out of the freezer for dinner. Don’t believe it if you are told an “old Lady” can’t learn new tricks. Not true. Although the new lessons might come slow, taking their time they’ll come. Just make the decision to learn.

It will be five years in July that I made the most drastic decisions. Making physical changes in moving my residence to living alone, then the gradual removal of pharmaceutical medications that were doing far more harm than any good, all the while filtering those in my life and the weight I give to respective relationships.

With great joy I found my health and my life reaching a place of good I had not been in for a long, long time. This time in my life I decided to jump off the proverbial fence of indecisiveness of being stuck. Deciding this is the time when I finally choose to take ownership for my well-being and the serenity of self peace.

The changes inside me are not changes most see, some who do see the changes see them as misguided deflections, but then there are those who do see the authenticity that I am striving to live today.

No more fake smiles.

No more denial.

When it’s time to quit.

 

 

ttaylor2016

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One Love

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artist ~ Jean Jullien

I am Paris…..

 

I like all of you who may read this are having to once again navigate a very painful time for our Universe.  Although by choice I don’t watch television I do not live in a cave. (though there are days)  The majority of media I receive current events from is print, via several platforms. I am a writer, I am an artist, the internet is a treasured tool.

This week I am pulling away.

I do not mean my head will be stuck in the sand, I am aware of the trials and tribulations humanity faces, I would even say I am educated on current events. So much so the last few days I have struggled, haven’t been able to even put a decent sentence together since 11.13.2015. In the scheme of things my Nano project lost all wind for the time being.

I’m recognizing my need to pull away from social media, regurgitated political rhetoric, and repeated videos and stories. I need to regroup. Again, like you who may be reading this my emotions have been all over the map.

I respect and can accept that we all have strong feelings and opinions, I do too. But it breaks my heart and scars my soul when I witness friends dissolving friendships over differences of feelings and opinions. It is certainly their choice. As it is mine to make myself scarce during this time.

I’m taking a time out.

We ALL are Paris.

We ALL are also the Wind of Change.

Let us be One Love

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A Gentler kind of Reminder ~ Music for the Soul

Some days gentle reminders are needed more than others. 

I got

Peace in my mind…

Peace in my heart…

Peace in my soul ~

This artist’s music has become an influential muse in my life. His music, his lyrics, especially speak to that which I am. And all I am learning from Living In The Moment. There is a genuine happiness and soul to soul connection from Jason’s lyrics that touches deeply every feeling I have experienced in recent years.

I wish to share and if you have never heard Mr Mraz please take some time to study his music,

I think it will do like it has for me; grounding any lost emotions to something tangible.

Thank you Jason Mraz

Become Your Own Change

Peace Knows Me

Peace begins inside of me
starting over, finally I am breaking free.
Peace begins inside of me
while I am opening my eyes and beginning to see
Peace begins with me
wondering what I’m gonna be
I do know Peace begins with me.
And knowing I no longer have to flee
and that Peace begins with me
that having the self dignity
to know Peace begins with me.
taking on more responsibility
this is why peace begins with me .    ~ (2013)

                                                    Not the post at all I intended here at this time, yet this is an expression of my own that timing took care of for me. The thoughts and ideals I share here are also shared by many, and are not unique to me. Every once in a while even the most upbeat and positive mentality can receive a crack in its armor. Resealing the crack up is not difficult, but it takes perseverance of a principled mind-set, and being surrounded by loving & healing energy to move beyond it and NOT let it become the normal. The principles I hope to master so that my wish to thrive while striving for a life of peaceful easy feelings and bliss will be my norm. It is with a strong purpose and intent I strive to live daily with these principles, this ideal, practicing this faith that sustains me.

Assimilating to living a peaceful life takes practice of which I hold out hope for that I will continue to be successful in all things possible. I always have carried hope in my heart and always will, even if I back pedal for brief moments. Practicing is a way of processing through a period of learning and growing. On practicing I have become quite adept of late, with seeds of new beginnings planted and waiting for a warm summer days to see them come into full  bloom.  Using this time, this winter of my soul to find the path that allows for safe navigation and passage to master those  peaceful and easy feelings in my life.

Carpe diem

If You Really Want To..you can too can seize the day

Eleven (11) thoughts on achieving that Peaceful Easy Feeling for Your Self:

1. Reduce your use of rational thinking

2. Listen to your intuition

3. Listen to your heart

4. Get the stuff off your mind

5. Meditate & Pray

6. Limit your information intake 

7. Read or listen to spiritual texts (not saying religious here. Key word is spiritual )

8. Eliminate unessential stuff

9. Don’t think too much about yourself

10. Do something for others

&

11. Slow down

Honor Yourself!

~ Let everything about me breath  calm & peace to  my soul. ~

I will be the change within my journey

towards creating the peace which begins in  me~

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Let Peace Begin With Me

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~ 2013~

Let Peace Begin With Me this very first day of 2013.

It is a concept I have long believed in and I want to practice more than any other in my multi- beliefs that incorporate my non traditional western faith.

 However, actually finding the courage, and lets face it folks, the strength to fight the robbers of all things positive and passive is not always one met with comrades of the same quest. Sometimes the going gets rough & tough, and sometimes  you will find yourself alone. Sometimes it may feel like your beliefs and passions are the ones  being suspect & questioned. Standing tall in what you believe has never come easy. Maybe it should not. Being convicted in your belief in should be serious business.

There is much talk, and much being written this time a year about world peace. Anyone that knows me knows that this has been my passionate pleas since I was 14 yrs old. A pacifist is what I am, and I am not ashamed of it.

This song by The Scorpions. ask why we cannot all live as one; if we all live under the same sun?  Good question.

With my belief and hope held out that we can achieve this world peace I am also cognizant that peace begins at home – in my heart first I am heading more and more to the quest of not tolerating anything less in my life. Regardless of the going fads it has always been my style & nature to ignore these, and stick with what is in my heart. A belief that we all can live under the same sun and be compassionate & unconditionally loving towards one another has always been mine. As a good & dear friend likes to remind me t often that, “All You Need Is Love.” Yes, it is the Beatles message too, maybe it was theirs first.  It is  a true and sincere sentiment. Mountains can be moved through the power of love.

It is with this peace within my very self and my energy that I will share the love and  smiles I’ve been given by you to all those I come in contract with.  Can you imagine if we all adopted this belief & changed our thinking in our heads & hearts? How beautiful this world could be. I am not asking you to adopt, and or to change your religious & spiritual sensibilities. In this you could combine the two if you will. Personally I think in terms of holding on to the hope that all is possible, and that my faith has been my saving grace. But I am so not perfect, I am still very much a student of this life still.

Carole King sings this tune “Beautiful” from her 1971 Tapestry album that echoes my belief that this world needs a little more love, and a LOT LESS fighting. I think it starts within our own hearts, Can you smile at yourself today? Can you be kind to yourself? A friend to someone in need? And those nearest & dearest to you,?  Or how about the elderly homeless who is hungry?  But he has dirty hands,. can you reach out and share a smile? Can you still feel the beauty?

  Smile from your heart and it will light up your whole face, it will lighten  the pressures of life.Its impossible to stay angry, bummed out or even resentful when you are smiling. It will go along way to send the message to those you love and like. To all those you come across in your day that may seem like strangers,  Those that are  blessed enough to be blogging member’s of this Word Press community we know this is not necessarily true anymore. We are no longer strangers in strange lands thanks to the Internet. Let us use these relationships with one another and create something really magical through the energy we together build.  Let us  go outside of our own hard drives and share what is  that is behind our smiles.

Take the  smiles (love) you are gifted from your blogging brothers and sister here, go and share them in your non-cyber world and Carry It On. This can be your clear message of peace without saying a word. Your smile says it all.  Sound too simple?

It is so simple it doesn’t even seem feasible. Very well it can be feasible though.  Smiles become infectious, Share  yours today.

As I have been on my soap box here about peace beginning at home let me say that I know it’s not easy when there are reasons to think anything but peace. I know,  My life is not seen through rose-colored glasses, only that I choose to not let it become what I don’t want it to be. I feel better about life when I smile, so how can that be anything but good for me?

It can change your whole perspective if you are open to peace within your own heart.  It has changed mine.

Not to be a curiosity yet starting a new life raises questions.  I am telling this because I would not like you all to think when I say find peace in your heart first that I believe it’s easy. Or that I am being flippant. 

I know the sacrifices it can take to become successful of living an authentic life in peace.It has taken years of not such peaceful feelings to get here, to find the strength to no longer live in direct opposition of what I believe. To find the courage to make the changes I speak of while there are those so resistant to any changes at all, even those of my own. A few are aware of what I speak of,  but suffice it to say that for me it has not been as daunting as it seemed even a year ago when I wrote about the same then also about the need to find the happy medium which would give me that clear authentic path to peace within.

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I have chosen that path and am walking strongly today with my head up and shoulders back. I will openly make a point of discussing the peace movement in my everyday conversations, I will write even more about the need we have for world-wide peace, and letting it begin within our own hearts first. Because I am at peace within, because I can smile at myself again, I am able to look beyond with great passion and belief that if I have found this in myself I can find this within my world. I am trusting this and refuse to accept any other belief.

We need to all work on smiling together. A simple smile to all those you come in contact with, those who you live * work with. It is amazing bit of magic this thing called a smile is.

This thing we call a smile is a Peace Keeper my friends.

And it can start within each of us.

Have you smiled at, and loved someone today?  Go on, go ahead.. we just need  a Whole Lotta Love. which will bring on those smiles. Remember, we are all walking under the same moon.

Finally Jason Mraz’s  first ever composed song also tells of my wishes and feelings for all things that you bring to me and my world. This tune maybe more synthesized than I normally like but so love his lyrics in this tune. And I especially like Jason Mraz he is my one of my 2012 gifts from my most special & best friend  in my life. Thank you for turning me on to Jason. I am smitten with almost all his music.

Happy New Year & Thank you so very much for following my blogs; Barefoot Baroness, FullCirceledMe. And our BTH the blog for missing persons and educated to children being kept safe.

For those who have been following me on over to & my involvement with Gerry’s blog Cyklopps Rides Again I’d like also to give a warm thank you for your devotion and support It’s quite meaningful to see your smiling names there in comments.

 You all truly humble me that you keep coming back.Thank you so very much!

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©tjhelser December31, 2012 Last Post

For The World: Wish Listed 2012

Always In Our Thoughts, Prayers & Memories

You are thought of by your world.

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For This World   ~  My Christmas Wish List 2012

Dear Santa Please~

Happy Christmas Eve To Y’all

Sending visions of sugarplums and Christmas Fairies dancing upon the boughs of  your Christmas spirit. Please join my wish for Peace  &  Joy To All  Mankind. Wishing that the Christmas Spirit of Love remain in your heart’s all year-long.

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“With gentleness overcome anger. With generosity overcome meanness.

With truth overcome deceit.” ~ Buddha

Let this season for a reason be the time you set aside to tell those you love what they mean to you. It can begin with you & I.

Think Peace ~Believe Peace~ Breathe Peace~ Be Peace

©tjhelser2012

Peace Begins in The Heart

A Day Of International Peace

Must Begin In Our Hearts First

Today, I ask that the people of this world wear white and become a great Bridge., join hands just for today with your neighbor. Your community.

Be Peace, Bring it into your Hearts, then your homes. Let Peace ring in your heart.

Bridging the distance with Peace in our hearts between distant shores, bridging the indifference between people. Just for today let Peace ring in your heart, and let it shine  out through your hands. Bridge with joined hands your Heart & your Peace. If we practice one day at a time it could become a habit. It is said that it takes just two weeks to create a new habit.

Join me, hold my hand. Start today. We can Be Peace.

Imagine a World With Such a Wonderful Habit

Imagine Peace