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Living Golden.

A years time goes by in a flash, two bizarrely even faster.
Have you given any thoughts to what you’ll change and or add to your life in 2014? Do you make new year’s resolutions? A new diet? Stopping a bad habit like smoking for instance?
Or do you tend to be like me and not even go there?
I have long been an advocate for NOT making new year resolutions. This last two years for me has brought so many new life changes that had I made any conscious resolutions the last two January’s I suspect I surely would have not been successful in playing out those resolutions. Simply so because I am busy living in the moments life is prone to, while navigating this that I refer to as the reinvention of my second season.
With the new year approaching, I remain steadfast in my way of thinking for 2014. I have made choices and changes in my life that have challenged me in ways I never even realized were possible. The challenge of finding new paths in life to live authentically, while finding a balance that brings the bliss of contentment comes with built-in fear factors. Fears that very well could have derailed me right from jump street had I fed the fears any energy. Instead I forged ahead, often with my eyes tightly shut not knowing what I might find at the end of each path.
The “reinvention of my second season” certainly has been filled with lessons I have found difficult to reconcile with,  affirming again for me it is not I who is in charge of all aspects of my life. 
And this is my own personal take on a familiar tradition of making new years resolutions, certainly not a suggestion that this is meant as advice in any way shape or form.

For me I am feeling this great wonder of having the freedom and ownership being on my own. The gift of being only that genuine person I have been shaped and molded to be, from all my life’s experiences and interactions is the most comfortable I have been in own my skin for a very long time.
I continue to be a devout and professional student of life. I am certainly in no way a “perfect person” and though I strive to live the “righteous life” of simply being a good person, living by the golden rule, I know without a doubt I am filled with a variety of flaws and imperfections. Which brings me to the theory of new years resolutions. It is not that I don’t need to make changes in my life where most of those flaws and imperfections lie. I do.
I wonder then where the disconnect for me comes regarding the theory behind new years resolutions. It is our tradition and custom to compile new years resolutions that we hope are going to improve who we are, and our behaviors. We all have our own inventory of these self-proclaimed improvements we seek in ourselves, and we think we only need to comply and our lives will magically improve  And there for me is the rub.
I realized that my discomfort in making resolutions comes from my personal theory that for me improving life is really about how to live as a person who treats our planet and all of its inhabitants with great care and respect. All the years.
I find myself needing to slow down in life and look for the ways I am best able to accomplish this as part of the person I am. Finding ways that I won’t just drop the ball after the first few weeks as I did with a diet. I discovered I simply needed to change my way of thinking. Just as I did in relation to my way of thinking about dieting. I chose to change my thinking from “die-it-ing” to instead to “live-it-ing”
Admittedly an abstract way of thinking, but it works for me. I am convinced our thinking determines our behaviors, and if I can simply change how I think about something it will have a direct influence on my perceptions and then consequently my behaviors.

While pondering and wandering in my mind I remembered something from so far back in school I was not even sure I knew what I was recalling was correct. In school studying about The Stoics  I recalled they believed in one basic behavior: Being Good.  Needing some research to confirm what I thought I remembered I was delighted to find history about the
philosophy founded in Athens by Zeno of Citium -early 3rd century B. C. 
I recalled correctly and was even more wonderful was that my research was serendipitous to my thoughts on improving life & new years resolutions.
Wiki notes on the Stoics: 
 “The Stoics taught that destructive emotions resulted from errors in judgment, and that a sage, or person of “moral and intellectual perfection,” would not suffer such emotions.[1] Stoics were concerned with the active relationship between cosmic determinism and human freedom, and the belief that it is virtuous to maintain a will (called prohairesis) that is in accord with nature. Because of this, the Stoics presented their philosophy as a way of life, and they thought that the best indication of an individual’s philosophy was not what a person said but how they behaved.”
Upon further reading I was reintroduced to the very basic of tenets that the Stoics lived by.  .
  • Living according to nature
  • Helping others
  • Commitment to self-improvement. (aha, resolutions maybe?)
  • Central to all else, maintaining a proper attitude. ( And there it is. An affirmation for me)
I find it fascinating when I learn about the philosophies throughout history that despite their originating cultures all touch on the very same ‘golden rule(s). In today’s life-style and belief systems I think living by a sense of the Golden Rule is the only path to true contentment.
 
There are four more tenets that I ascribe to that help me find a clarity in remaining true to myself,  true to those in my world, and true as well to this earth we call home and our universe.
 
  • Live without pretending.
  • Listen without defending.
  • Speak without offending…

And my All-Time, All-Star favorite tenant:

  • Love without depending. 
Maybe some might choose to call these resolutions, and that’s okay by me.
I can do this for the rest of my life, not for just a few weeks. 
 
I will still make the choice to call it simply “Living Golden”.
 
 

©ttaylor2013

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Winter’s Wild Wonderland

Finding delight during the height of the Christmas season brings a special sparkle. I love the classic (might I say vintage?) Christmas songs we all have grown up with, Hearing them year after year brings with them attached memories. I have this my first Christmas being single been especially remembering Christmas with my brothers, and with that has brought the soft feeling of being a bit homesick.

So this year I am going home!

The week after Christmas my daughter & I will be with my brothers & their families. I have a grand-niece who I will be meeting for the first, I am so looking forward to the trip. My brothers don’t know we are coming. My sister in-laws’ and I decided to make a surprise out of it for both my brothers who think they will not see me at all this holiday.

This means a road trip with my daughter as we will be making the trek across the Cascade Mountain range from our small home town on the high desert to the big city of Portland Oregon, Affectionately known as P-town.

All of this is very weather dependent of course. because of the temperamental climate of the wild winter wonderland of the Oregon mountains. Makes me think of the Christmas son Winter Wonderland.

The trip over the mountain pass this time of year can be quite a wild adventure if caught up at 6000-7000 feet above sea level in white out conditions.  (Think good thoughts for us please)

It can also be the most Zenful trip of the year  bringing an incredible sense of peace over your whole being. This stunning winter wonderland drive over the pass very soon begins to creates a calm and quiet that gently blankets the energy inside the car. No one speaks. Everyone feels it. Our breath is literally taken by the crisp and pure beauty that lies in every direction our eyes can scan.

And the silence. the blissful silence of snow. Only the subtle tapping cadence from the studded snow tires needed for traction keep time for the orchestrated quiet.  There is no radio reception, no cell/mobile service, and there is a sense for great reverence for that kind of wild winter wonderland silence. So we honor that for a bit of time and just drive.

We are in the middle of a national forest

 A deep humble sigh escape while softly smiling. Gratitude for the gift of living amongst such spectacular grace of nature is a shared thought. Day dreams about the little cabin nestled under the shelter of the great pines, tall sentry’s guarding at its sides. Then the narratives begin. As we wind through the mountains with the back drop of the sun glancing brilliant light off the snow we begin to spin tales. The stories we tell and build with one another;  the songs we make up on the fly singing together, and the silly laughter.

All part of the magic.

….and then once again the silence will come.

Oregon’s Wild Winter Wonderland.

Merry Christmas Y’all!

©ttaylor2013

For The World: Wish Listed 2012

Always In Our Thoughts, Prayers & Memories

You are thought of by your world.

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For This World   ~  My Christmas Wish List 2012

Dear Santa Please~

Happy Christmas Eve To Y’all

Sending visions of sugarplums and Christmas Fairies dancing upon the boughs of  your Christmas spirit. Please join my wish for Peace  &  Joy To All  Mankind. Wishing that the Christmas Spirit of Love remain in your heart’s all year-long.

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“With gentleness overcome anger. With generosity overcome meanness.

With truth overcome deceit.” ~ Buddha

Let this season for a reason be the time you set aside to tell those you love what they mean to you. It can begin with you & I.

Think Peace ~Believe Peace~ Breathe Peace~ Be Peace

©tjhelser2012

The “Dear” Liebster Award 2012 ~ 1st Part

I know and trust that the beautiful Pastor jellillie will not mind me sharing my award page with the victims of Newton & our entire community.

God’s Blessing to  You All!

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This is the season for giving to each other, for telling one an other how you feel about them, or how they are a positive influence in your life. All the things you keep meaning to say please take the time today to say so.. I have been been blessed by both from this amazing woman, writer, WP Blogger friend.

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Pastor jelillie has blessed me with the special  meaning behind, the  shape of,  and the color of The Liebster Award, for which I understand from a German friend Liebster can have many endearments associated with it but the one she shared that she uses often is with the meaning  “Dear” one. I like that.

If you have not been to Pj”s blog you are missing God’s messages through this empowering blog and its author.

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The conditions of accepting this award are pretty intense so I will do as much as  I am able to do considering it is the week of Christmas. I feel the need to accept this before the end of 2012 as it was given in December 2012. I am deeply grateful because who the award came from. I am thankful and humbled by this.

The acceptance requirements as they are below and are  in pristine form as they came to me. Y’all all know I have to be difficult and  I don’t like things too perfect, makes me a mite uncomfortable. With perfection where is the room for improvement? I like to think I am always working on improving myself. So I will rearrange a bit of my acceptance to suit the timing of posting.

A) You paste the award picture into your blog.- This picture is at the top of the blog

B) Name 11 random things about yourself

C)  Answer the 11 questions asked by the person who nominated you.

D) You write-up 11 NEW questions directed towards your nominee,


My 11 Random Facts.

(1)  Born in March 1955 – 2nd generation native Oregonian, USA

(2) Became an avid reader at age 5 yrs old ~ compliments of big brother who taught me how. Think he was tired of me asking him; “Read to me please?”

(3) Read the entire Bible my sophomore year of High (secondary) School in one semester as a class assignment. We were asked to pick a book, any book. Think any teacher in The USA could get away with allowing a student to even bring a Bible into a classroom setting as curriculum?  I have readers who are teachers, let me ask them what do they think?

(4 ) I collect elephants, anything elephant motif. Have since a girl and have over 100 elephants sharing my personal space.

(5) I love to cook large meals – but I really, really love the science of baking

(6) I rarely watch Television. Typically have music on usually 24/7.  I even sleep to music.

(7) My Nativity Set is The Fontanini Heirloom collection. It is my Christmas decoration of my Pride and Joy.  The collection pieces which has been exclusively distributed by Roman for many years has become world-famous in Italian craftsmanship. I have been collecting the pieces since 1981 when I first purchased Baby Jesus & his manger,  along of course with Joseph & Mary.

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(8) I am one of 4 Dirty Mothers.

(9) I wear my gold cross full-time, sometimes gold earnings and maybe once in a moon a watch. I do not fancy other jewelry. Never have, yet I have a jewelry tower full of different necklaces that I never wear. Why I wonder when I see them hanging and never worn.

(10) I know the feeling of being loved and cherished. I know the freedom this gives the soul to love unconditionally.

(11) I believe  the power of love and positivity can move mountains and cross shores. I believe in Hopes and dreams. Mine and Yours.

This is where my alteration of the requirements starts. In the interest of the Holidays, & time  I will return after the first of the year and finish Pastor jelillies questions and with my nominations. I realize I am a novel size poster, but this is an extensive process,

Thank you again Pj I am honored and always humbled by your presence on my blog

God bless and keep you.~ BB

©tjhelser2012

 

What I Do To Stay Out Of Trouble

September’s Final Efforts

The last of the hand-made cards I created in the month of September. Working with my hands to create a piece that may give another pleasure works to keep me on an even keep most of the time. It’s an emotional release creating art. It is also so meditative with music to sing to, and hands to create with, I am certainly blessed.

September 2012 Creations:

The sentiment on this card says “Hello” I am not sure why it is reversed I have never had this happen an did nothing different in the taking the photo, cropping it, and uploading it here at WP.

Changing Season

Fall cool weather has finally hit the high desert in Central Oregon. I am grateful to smell the cool dry air that we have here. Now the watch for snow begins, creatively I have moved on to Halloween and Thanksgiving/Gratitude cards. I love the color palette I am working with this time of year.The earth tones with tints of bronze and golds speaks to my heart. This time of year is also my favorite – for the textures and colors in nature are like no other time of the year. I even like the raking of the Fall leaves into piles. I will invite the neighbor hood children for a dip.

©tjhelser2012