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Twenty-six Days Twenty-six Nights

Twenty-six days. Twenty-six nights.

When I closed my laptop last night I had reached 50,122 words which means I was successful in the challenge to write 50,000 words in the 30 days. ( story needs maybe another 10-15,000 words to complete the story-line)

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Much about what I experienced this past month will forever be embedded in my memory, life lessons, writing tips, inspiration from the coolest sources, and the support of devoted friendships. What started out to be one story line showed yet another additional side-line as my story seemed to begin to write itself. Often veering into uncharted territory for me.

Finding support and inspiration during this adventure was something I never needed to look for, in the most wonderful ways the support was always right when and where I needed it. I have had the absolute delight in many discoveries through this process, and discovering the hidden talents in those in my world has been the priceless gifts that I take away from  the last 27 days.

From the daily support by devoted friends, family, writers, musicians, and complete strangers  new friends, all telling me I could do this, and that I was not alone I became even more empowered. I don’t think I would have been successful without.

  One particular friend who doesn’t need me to name names here  I still want to especially thank. This  friend has been my cheering squad,  doing research, helping me to manage my continuity, and at times my muse. This creative, clever and  generous person even created a gift of a place for me to Storyboard, naming it Toni’s Co-Op Storyboard. (invitations  to other writers will follow soon) 

On another morning I went to said Toni’s Co-Op and  I found this:

Graphics for my book cover…..An amazing gift of friendship & priceless support.

Don’t you think?

The Charles Bukowski poem below I always have liked and often find great solace  in when I am at the literary crossroads. But…. after these past few weeks I say now I know exactly what Mr Bulkowski was saying.

Living it far different than reading it.

I share.

” So You Want to Be a Writer “

By Charles Bukowski

If it doesn’t come bursting out of you

in spite of everything,
don’t do it.
unless it comes unasked out of your
heart and your mind and your mouth
and your gut,
don’t do it.
if you have to sit for hours
staring at your computer screen
or hunched over your
typewriter
searching for words,
don’t do it.
if you’re doing it for money or
fame,
don’t do it.
if you’re doing it because you want
women in your bed,
don’t do it.
if you have to sit there and
rewrite it again and again,
don’t do it.
if it’s hard work just thinking about doing it,
don’t do it.
if you’re trying to write like somebody
else,
forget about it.
if you have to wait for it to roar out of
you,
then wait patiently.
if it never does roar out of you,
do something else.

if you first have to read it to your wife
or your girlfriend or your boyfriend
or your parents or to anybody at all,
you’re not ready.

don’t be like so many writers,
don’t be like so many thousands of
people who call themselves writers,
don’t be dull and boring and
pretentious, don’t be consumed with self-
love.
the libraries of the world have
yawned themselves to
sleep
over your kind.
don’t add to that.
don’t do it.

unless it comes out of
your soul like a rocket,
unless being still would
drive you to madness or
suicide or murder,
don’t do it.
unless the sun inside you is
burning your gut,
don’t do it.
when it is truly time,
and if you have been chosen,
it will do it by
itself and it will keep on doing it
until you die or it dies in you.
there is no other way.

…and there never was.

One final & very personal note from me about writers.

Since going on record regarding my NANO project, and despite that I have written and published for almost 15 yrs. all of a sudden I am being bombarded with questions by well-meaning folk. Things I never was asked of before, nor wold I ever ask of someone else. It occurred to me that these folks just might have never thought about how their questions might be received by me. Often I find these to be unwelcome and awkward questions.

I love these people, please don’t misunderstand. In fact, I love them and their friendships more than I dislike the questions.BUT….since I am thinking they just have no idea how I feel if I don’t tell them. Remembering we teach people how to treat us. 

So, please allow me to say now. 

Top Ten Tips For Surviving a Relationship with a Writer

  1. Never ever ask when the book will be published.
  2. DO NOT ask a writer if they wish they had written a best seller.
  3. Never say you’re thinking of writing a book. Never ever say you’d also write a book if only you had time. 
  4. Don’t call the police if you happen to see a writer’s browsing history. The average writer is not planning to poison you,  hire a hitman, or move to Afghanistan. It’s simply research. 
  5. Leave a writer alone when the writer is actually writing. You have no idea how difficult it is to enter into the zone. 
  6. Don’t pick unfair fights with a writer, writers do get their revenge in print. 
  7. If you do pick a fight, make it memorable. The writer is always looking for material. 
  8. If your writer wanders off at a party, don’t panic. Writers love to inspect the host’s bookshelves and medicine cabinets. 
  9. Buy your writer notebooks and cute pens as gifts. Do not buy flowers. Chocolate is also acceptable.
  10. Leave your writer alone when a REJECTION LETTER arrives. After the deadly silence, screaming, crying, moaning, and muttering have subsided, offer your write a cup of coffee or tea. And a cupcake, preferably chocolate. * And a huge hug. 

And Tip # !! ~ looking for a gift for the writer(s) in your world? Maybe think about how welcome the above ten tips, hand-written in your own script, on nice sheet of stationary, would be to your writer..

On Comfortably Numbing Down (CND)

Do you ever wonder why we do some things in our lives over and over, despite knowing it will not result any different of an outcome?
Probably even with a result that we know does not serve us.
 
I have been talking, writing, and learning a lot about living authentically for some time now. 
It is true it can get pretty lonely when we show ourselves. It is a risk we take being open and raw with emotions that guide our life.
This also can be off-putting to those in our world.
This is all just part of living authentically, When we are able to show our self and find comfort in this we then will be free to live our life as it has always meant to be….
Able to be the genuine person we are striving to be all along,
 
Comfortable enough to just be ourselves without any need to defend, protect, or deflect. 
There will be no longer a need to hang on to all the thoughts & beliefs we had scurried away that served to only preserve our self-image.
No longer will we have a need to secret away any parts of our self.
 
So now…. how do we get there?
 
This quote from Mary Oliver “Instructions for living”  is a perfect starting point. It was shared with me by a friend (thank you Joss) who is also on a self-exploration. 
 
” Pay attention.
 Be astonished.
Tell about it.”
           ― Mary Oliver
 
Perfect 3 tips to guide the start of the walk.
 
In the discovery of the path to authenticity I have found much in my recent research to bolster my agenda in wanting to live in a way that creates little to no regret in my life.
My big “Aha Moment” was finding I only need to change my thinking.
My astonishment came because I know I can make the changes in myself that will have great impact on that authenticity.
And a reconciliation that will allow myself to be comfortable in whatever situation or circumstance I might be in. Because there will only be the genuine ME navigating the circumstance. No question.
 
There is an interesting field of study in psychology called Cognitive dissonance.
The philosophy or idea that we will create thoughts and actions, or do just about anything in order to hang on to our own positive self-image, despite the actual truth.
In a simplistic example; we might believe we are loved (because lets face it we all want to be loved so thought it was something we can all relate to) 
Yet when faced with the factual actions that do not support love or it is withheld from us (for whatever reason) it sticks right in the heart. You know it. But you refuse to believe what is right in front of you.
It’s hard to admit it if we may have been mistaken. To navigate such uncomfortable circumstances we become masters at justifying what we believe, why we believe it, what we need to do and what we say to our selves.
We find can find justification for anything.
Self-deception can become our norm.
 
As a species with a highly evolved brain and emotion we are intelligent beings who typically look for consistency in what we believe & our perceptions. 
What is it that happens when we have conflict with a long-held belief and a new belief is presented.?
You feel it at your very core that ‘something’ is wrong.
That feeling of discomfort that is created when we hold two conflicting beliefs. When there is a discrepancy between beliefs and behaviors.
There is that gut feeling that something is off. 

That chord that rings true within all of us that ‘something’ is just not sitting right within our spirit. 

That’s dissonance.

And that ‘something’ must change in order to eliminate or reduce the dissonance. 

 
The realization comes through our self inventory, with our self-image and our self-worth playing heavily into this cognitive dissonance. 
 I am certainly not immune by any means which is what takes me on this journey of reason and discovery in the first place. 
 
I discovered in reading that I might have to rethink some ideas I have in my own head about who I am. And how I interact with those I love. 
It has to start with ourselves. 
 
 Self-Efficacy refers to our self-image, stability of mood, and level of motivation. 
Hopefully we have good levels of self-esteem, sense of self, and a sense of accomplishment. 
If so it seems we might be acutely aware of our feelings, where they come from –
But are we accepting – of both our strengths, and weaknesses?
Likewise, we might likely feel that people who are important in our life understand us. 
But people who are on our radar tend to be comfortable not giving in to peer, family, and other social pressures any more than we are. It’s human nature. 
 
Family & close friends opinions are indeed important, but their expectations do not need to strongly influence our life. Instead our close family & friends tend to have their own well-defined ambitions and goals. The two shall not meet. We might even be very influential and persuasive with others. In fact, our family, friends and acquaintances may often come to us for ideas of guidance across a range of issues.
 So, can we be real & honest with ourselves and them? Not say what they want, what we want to hear, but instead  say what the genuine truth is? 
 
I find myself wanting that deep emotional connection with those in my life more and more. An important aspect of loving anyone that should not be ignored. Being authentic can open that door.
Our self is the only thing we can change in any relationship, any situation. If it’s not working for you change ‘something’ within yourself.
The inner workings of relationships are not as natural to navigate as we expect them to be. It takes some effort to have genuine & authentic relationships with that soul to soul emotional connection of those who matter the most.
 
I have found some questions I needed to answer for myself in this quest as well as some thoughts and tips that seem to help me with keeping that feeling of dissonance further at bay. 
 
Firstly,  ask these three things and answer with brutal honesty. 
I suggest a pen & paper and turn off all electronics, even music (I know) Phones most definitely.
Now spend some time with yourself. (make sure you will not be interrupted if at all possible)
Then ask:

“Do your positive qualities outweigh your faults? Why or why not?”

“Do you ever feel guilty when you do not meet the expectations of your family or friends? Explain.

“Are you the type of person who likes to stand out in a crowd or go totally unnoticed?” Why do you suppose this is?   (just so you know, there are no right or wrong answers)

Secondly, there are things I know that let me live more authentically if I practice them on a daily basis. And I mean practice as in rehearse, make mistakes, and get back up again, and start all over. And do it again tomorrow…
 
#1 Don’t lie. We just have to give it up, even those little seemingly innocent white lies.  Ask yourself what the lie is feeding?
 
#2. Know that we must not say everything out loud (this is a personal hurdle) We tend to get into a mind-set that all our thoughts are important and worthy of being shared. Not true. Learn to quiet your voice, not squelch it. 
 
#3  You can change your mind. It’s allowed. Being rigid will not serve an authentic life. 
 
#4 Avoid being en-guard.
 
#5  Have core plasticity.
#6 Be flexible, bend a bit, but don’t break.
 
#7  See family & friends attempts towards emotionally connecting as the good they are, even if not 200% successful.
 
#8  Have Team Spirit (whoever your team may be. Family, friends, lover, community…) 
 
#9  Focus only on the good. Catch those who matter to you most doing the things that feed your spirit. Ignore those things that might not. 
 
#10  Assert yourself. 
 
and finally…
Find a new voice.
One with an Emotional Reaction Redirection, An E.R.R.
We do this by changing how we say things to others. And to ourselves. 
Sometimes let us try to numb down our response.
Let us try to be comfortable knowing not everything needs our reaction and response.
Be Comfortably Numbed Down. C.N.D.
 
Start there. . 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Ignite Me!

 

Greetings & Happy People!   Today’s post is something different for me. I rarely post other sites or other people’s work here at Lady Barefoot Baroness. But finding this in my inbox today has made me second guess my scruples on this. When there is fabulous information and or places to go, see, & do  I have decided some of the information warrants sharing. This is one of those times.

From a musician friend I was hooked up with this organization and grateful for such amazing information that helps me navigate my  life, and more important helps us help each other.  There are many things as artists we can do to help lend our hand to doing some good in our world. Again, this is one of those times.

Please if you would, spend a few minutes and acquaint yourself with IGNITE.ME.com.  The page I have posted is their Consciousness category, be aware that they have many different categories; so if this not your ( as my favorite  English Gentleman says); “If this  is not your cup of tea “ keep reading.

And should you feel so inclined to join, welcome aboard ~

 

A community for art and forward-thinking ideas,
Embracing openness, inclusion, and human connection

Consciousness

Happiness Strategies: The Science and Pursuit of Bliss

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A few years ago, I found myself torn up over unrequited love. Rejection was quicksand that kept my mind stuck in the past. I replayed the heartbreaking moment over and over. Why had this man robbed me of a perfect future? Why couldn’t he see how happy we would be?

     

 

Posted by on Tuesday, April 23rd, 2013 with 5 Comments

Finding Happiness in the Hemispheres of the Brain

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I enjoy all species of Burning Man theme camps, from Bacchanalian to buttoned-down. In 2005, my favorite theme camp was everything Burning Man is reputed not to be: relaxing, peaceful and nourishing. With spiritual statuary and curtains and cushions in rich hues of blue, magenta, orange and green, the place looked like an Indian meditation […]

     

 

Posted by on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013 with 4 Comments

Lucid Dreams: Merging Fantasy and Reality

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A few years ago, I experienced my first lucid dream, a dream I was able to consciously control. It was a beautiful dream which changed the course of my life. At the time, I was dealing with intense fear in my personal life. My dream began in this place of fear.

     

 

Posted by on Friday, April 5th, 2013 with 12 Comments

Pros and Cons of Immortality

Transhuman version of Sistine Chapel

Are you afraid of dying? Most of us are, to some extent. Through the work of the world’s first immortality research center, Russian Internet mogul Dmitry Itskov is planning to make death irrelevant. Called the 2045 Initiative, Itskov wants to give investors the option of allowing their minds to live forever in robot bodies. Eventually, […]

     

 

Posted by on Friday, March 22nd, 2013 with 15 Comments

What Our Memories Say About Us

Melting Watch by Salvador Dali

A few days ago, I got into a heated discussion with a friend. By the end of the argument, we were both saying things like, “But you said this…” and “That’s not how I remember it.” At that point, we weren’t even arguing over the original topic. We were disputing our different versions of what […]

     

 

Posted by on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013 with 10 Comments

7 Lessons About Wisdom

Owl painting by Harvin Alert

Are you wise? If so, I want to be like you. I’m on what will surely prove to be a lifelong quest for wisdom. I have my sage moments, but emotions and a tendency towards impulsive behavior sometimes wreck wise decisions for me. That’s why I’ve set a goal to learn from every situation so […]

     

 

Posted by on Thursday, March 7th, 2013 with 9 Comments

The Science of Consciousness: Can We Measure Emotional Energy?

Group prayer

Have you ever felt moved by the energy of a crowd? Maybe you’ve felt a heaviness in the air at funerals, or you’ve experienced an electric buzz at concerts or at a sporting event. I’ve felt these things. Personally, I never choose to watch baseball on TV, but I happily go to games because I […]

     

 

Posted by on Monday, February 4th, 2013 with 6 Comments

Cognitive Dissonance: How Our Minds Deal With Conflicting Ideas

Kontemplation by Alex Grey

I love debating open-minded people. It’s fun to exercise my old brain in this way. Sometimes, I teach. Usually, I’m the one being taught. I’d rather take a pass on debating people who decided long ago to reject all ideas beyond the ones they already hold. It’s frustrating to discuss issues with those who’ve already […]

     

 

Posted by on Tuesday, January 29th, 2013 with 2 Comments

Optical Delusions: The Problem with “Seeing is Believing”

3D Street Art, by Kurt Wenner

I’ll never forget my first deep dive. I was in the Bay Islands, Honduras, and my scuba instructor was Morgan, the raving mad Irishman. Even though he’d never lived in the U.S., he had a giant tattoo of the Oakland Raiders on his shoulder. His teeth were filed into sharp points. “The better to eat […]

     

 

Posted by on Wednesday, January 23rd, 2013 with 0 Comments

What’s Missing from Vampire Stories: How Immortality Would Really Change You

Vampire Dawn by Avelina de Moray

Love them or hate them, vampires are in your face. They’re all over books and the big and small screens – and they’re likely here to stay. We’re fascinated with vampires because they represent our shadow side. They’re dark and mysterious, and through them we get to explore physical immortality. By living vicariously through vampires, […]

     

 

Posted by on Thursday, January 17th, 2013 with 4 Comments

 

 

 

 

 

Black Box A Comedy ~ Episode Two

Episode 1 - "Steve Lasseter: Judgement Day" - Black Box on Blip

“Black Box”  A New Comedy Series by Erik Doyle

Episode Tow Released by producer Erik Doyle.  ( if you have not seen one simply click here> http://blip.tv/blackboxcomedy/episode-1-steve-lasseter-judgement-day-6566517

Please remember to click “like” knowing this is how Hollywood works today folks. It not only allows you to share with the producer/director  & his cast that you are liking what you are seeing. This is how the monies are made, and the actors fed.

My thoughts such as they are:  It is a good & quite amazing way to be involved in the process. I like most have been a fan of film since a young child,  still filling my creative cravings today with film noir.  I find this series Black Box hysterically funny, and when I think back to the days of “casting couches” I am fascinated by seeing the interactions today between actors. Black Box albeit a fiction I am certain there must be a reality that resonates throughout the story line in the scenes and the script.  I am only supposing here folks, don’t hold me to it.
Instead see for yourself.

Enjoy & thanks again to Mr Doyle for sharing ~

Black Box Episode Two

http://blip.tv/blackboxcomedy/episode-2-cheapened-by-the-half-dozen-6571255

Masterful Story Teller of Folk Tales.

Folk Art Tales

I have always been a big fan of anything to do with Folk Art, in any way. Be it the art, the music , or the stories handed down generation after generation. It’s an exquisite art form and one I am delighted to be aware that is not dying off any time soon,. Thanks to having the modern-day Story teller’s who are essential to keeping the art alive, the customs rich, and the generations to follow in the know.
 
Might I suggest that if you know a story-teller to please take a moment to thank them for what they bring to our community’s. And to our individual lives. Saturday nights might never have been the same.
 
My intent, my point to this post is to honor and pay respect to one great story-teller  who is doing his very best to keep the Folk Tales of his homeland alive and well.  We, his readers are the great benefactors of Gerry’s folk tales on his warm and welcoming blog; restawyle. 
 
Without further adieu; this, my homage to Folk Tales has been inspired by the very tales that Gerry from his blog restawyle researches, writes and then shares by telling us a story. This is intended to celebrate him as a Story Teller.
This post is dedicated to Gerry & his fabulous blog.
 
 
For you because you keep these tales alive.~ 
 

Three Little Pigs, Cinderella, Paul Bunyan, Pea & The Princess..

All are folk tales, stories that are told and passed down by “The folk” of the communities for generations.  Folk tales serves as a way to document as chronicles the way of f life for the common man & woman of the time. Common Folk. These tales usually reveal something about history of a certain community, or a certain geographical local.  Learning from repeated tales  we discover how people lived,  what their moral compass was, and what their customs and cultures were like.

Learning from this fascinating and entertaining gift we call Folk Tales we discover we are a part of a culture that is world -wide; as demonstrated by the fact that over 500 versions of Cinderella from Yeh Shen to Sootface of the Obibwa. have been viewed.  

Folk tales are still bridging one culture to another. We as people can be separated by race, geography, and/or socioeconomics;  but a folk tale bridges all that with common beliefs & values that allow us to see each other, in one another. And also to accept one another.
Through these Folk Tales shared we learn too that all people having similar hopes, as well as similar fears which are consistently reflected in the tales we share. 
 
We all want to conquer the wild beast who threatens all our dreams, climb the highest mountains, and maybe even save the damsel in distress if it’s a really good day.  It is our human nature to be Common Folk. 
 
All folk tales need are traditions; and someone to tell them.  Folk tales like fairy tales weave stories of magic, sensational subjects, and happenings which give
us marvelous characters and events.
All giving a glimpses of the common desires and fears of the community. Folk tales are accepted as “maybe-truths” – which should always contain one-dimensional characters . The ” Very Good “, the ” Really Bad “… and always include magical characters able to do magical things.
 However the main character is often human and is usually on a mission of heroism. The puzzlement’s answer is usually found through the magic bestowed upon the Good One and The Human. 
 
And pray tell they live happily ever after ~. 
 
 
 
 
 
 To begin reading Folk Takes about the New Ancient Forest in England I need to point no further than to this English Gentleman and his blog restawyle @ http://cobbies69.wordpress.com/2013/03/23/2475/
Don’t be shy Gerry has massed several Folk Tales so far. I have it good authority the intent is for him to do more.
And if you get a hankering to retell a tale,,, well go ahead, go for it.
That is what Folk Telling is all about now… isn’t it?
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23, April 2013
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What I Do To Stay Out Of Trouble

September’s Final Efforts

The last of the hand-made cards I created in the month of September. Working with my hands to create a piece that may give another pleasure works to keep me on an even keep most of the time. It’s an emotional release creating art. It is also so meditative with music to sing to, and hands to create with, I am certainly blessed.

September 2012 Creations:

The sentiment on this card says “Hello” I am not sure why it is reversed I have never had this happen an did nothing different in the taking the photo, cropping it, and uploading it here at WP.

Changing Season

Fall cool weather has finally hit the high desert in Central Oregon. I am grateful to smell the cool dry air that we have here. Now the watch for snow begins, creatively I have moved on to Halloween and Thanksgiving/Gratitude cards. I love the color palette I am working with this time of year.The earth tones with tints of bronze and golds speaks to my heart. This time of year is also my favorite – for the textures and colors in nature are like no other time of the year. I even like the raking of the Fall leaves into piles. I will invite the neighbor hood children for a dip.

©tjhelser2012