Through all these times
I wondered about:
the wounds of my soul, all the mistakes, and all of the miracles.
Through the tears through the laughter along the wayside.
I obsessed I sighed.
to let it all go. finally letting go and returning to the silence.
Over and over.
For it heals my soul.
I am certain this is not news to anyone that trying to live a philosophy or concept you believe in 100% can still be trying. For instance just the day to day logistics can try to get in the way, and old habits are hard to break even when you want to.
Some say Being Mindful of the Moment is just an expression, I disagree. It’s true I believe, mindful is a verb.
I often use to find myself feeling needy of knowing what tomorrow would bring. Today I know this is a feeling I do not have to react to, it is not my need to know what tomorrow will bring. Because in all honesty my future is not where I want to be. I want to be mindful of just this moment. I want to be fully present in the here and now.
But because often with that needing to know I could also make myself wicked crazy waiting for the answers.
For some time.
It has only been in the last decade of my life that the realization and wisdom came to me that fretting over what tomorrow or even hours from now will bring serves no rational purpose. Least of all it does not serves me. I’ve researched, studied, observed, absorbed, and experimented with ways to help myself remain mindful of “Staying in the Moment.” I needed some lessons, teachings, and even some magic tricks that would help me remember to be mindful. It is too easy to fall back into old habits, old ways of thinking, even when we are trying to change our thinking to grow and enhance our life’s journey
Once I had some logistics in place, some ‘teachings’ I could grasp which allow me now to be gently reminded to remain in this moment; fostered by practicing these lessons daily.
First three and most important teachings:
1. Practice Self-Love.
2. Practice Self-Compassion
3. Practice Self-Forgiveness
Practicing even one of these teachings helped me remain grounded, to retain a balance in my small world in the beginning. I say go slow. It was quite remarkable how when I chose just one teaching that seemed like magic in that it helped decrease my level of predilection for wanting (read need) to know what the future is going to bring. Just one practice.
How do we remain in the moment, to stay mindful of the here and the now? It’s the only space of time that matters. This time.. right now
In the spirit of this blog I’d like to share the teachings that work for me. My wish is that you are able to take something away, and please be welcome to leave something behind in your comment.
Personal – I wear or carry “totems” (an Native North American term) sometimes also referred to as prayer beads, worry stones, or even amulets. My affinity for doing so came from my youth. I found great comfort in a “smoothed by time” river rock in the shape of a flat heart. I found beautiful comfort in holding its warm stone between my forefinger and thumb, or in the closed palm of my hand. I loved the connection with earth as a girl, I treasure it now as an adult woman.
On Mediation: I prefer to mediate regularly; typically it is once every day for at least 15-20 minutes. I found it is that regular practice of meditation that really starts to shape my mind and the way it works. I have heard that this has been backed up by the latest brain studies. I find it easier to maintain focus, have that stillness of mind I am looking for. Being mindful is becoming my norm.
- Journaling: This is probably not a surprise to those of you who know a bit about me. Keeping a daily journal of my goals and my accomplishments while articulating (what I like to think are wise thoughts) into my way of living can be remarkably effective. Absolutely it’s a habit that requires practice. A lot of practice. Journaling at night when I can’t sleep and reviewing in the morning helps keep these teachings alive throughout the day.
- Reminder Notes: By placing inspirational/motivational notes, and self-affirmations around my small world (as done even on this post) these become helpful reminders for staying grounded and not getting distracted. This can be favorite quote, important concept, notes from loved ones, or even a short narrative or a poem. A personal favorite are two prayers sent from a very good friend who is one of my spiritual mentors.
- Mind-fullness Alarms: I loved this teaching especially when I began my quest of mindfulness. Although I don’t do this as a norm anymore; setting alarms to go off at regular intervals throughout the day can be a very effective teaching to help kick-start good mindful habits. This is especially helpful when marathon writing by the way. Having that reminder alarm helps me to get out of my head for a time with regularity.
It is also important I believe to note of what to be mindful of. Buddhists refer to this as the Right Thought and Right View.
Things that consume us during the day, like anger, fear, worry, or frustration, comes from unwise or misguided perspectives. Having a wider & more open mind to other perspectives than our own is a big help. I heard once about a very effective practice of referring to the issues of certain circumstances in our life as “third-world problems”. This is short-hand for a reminder that while dealing with issues we think are monumental, we might instead be mindful that there are people in our world who don’t have access to enough to eat.
It is all about perspectives.
And how we think.
Can this kind of daily practice of mindfulness achieve a state of bliss In The Moment?
For thousands of years, practitioners have reported greater happiness and tranquility when we are able to stay In The Moment’
So….I think… I shall stay right here in this moment….this here and now – and absorb it for all its worth.
And this moment in time?
©ttaylor2017 (original version 2013)