The Difference Of Four Years & A Certain Grace

Hindsight and four years later makes all the difference in my world and to the grace of my emotional intelligence. Approaching January 2017 I read past narratives like the one below that I wrote while navigating the biggest personal storm of my life with a sense of detachment. Was that really me?
Since opening the door to my life alone on January 4th 2013 I have become the person I was shirking away from for a lifetime. A person who had become so immersed in what others expected that I lost myself and the dreams I had always planned to chase.
Today this person I am is as different as the four years that became my learning curve to the truth of who I really am and how I got to here. I read the narrative below and find I don’t connect with who that person was who wrote those words in 2013.
What a difference a year can make, what a difference four years makes. There is a certain grace is being mindful of this.
Dream Chasing at warp speed!
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…..or four

(*originally written in 2013)
What I know To Be True-  Dreams Are Meant To Be Chased
I don’t know a lot to be absolute truths, but two other things I do know to be true are feelings are not forever and change is inevitable.
Reflections on where I have been and where in life I am today are much like self-inventories that are also inevitable.
Questioning;
 “What happened to the significance of living the life I wanted?”
“Do I have a different idea about what The Dream Chasing really was?”
“Is it different from what I dreamed of chasing so many years ago? “
My Dream Chasing today seems not very different from what I dreamed before I stopped chasing it, although very different from what and how I am chasing it. This I say with great certainty.
Could it be that the dream has always remained the same and it is I that was constantly changing? 
Is it I  that let go of chasing the hope that one day I would realize my dreams were within reach?
Truth is I had let go.
I just stopped…well.. because I allowed myself to believe a misconception that it had become pointless.
I’d convinced myself that because my dream did not matter to anyone who was important to me it should not need to matter to me either.
I allowed myself to forget that feelings are not forever and that people change.
But I was wrong. Terribly wrong.
Chasing my dreams and the plans I’d made changed many moons ago by a storm that went through my life, leaving me in the dust of its wake.
That person and the dreams I had originally been chasing to reach were completely struck off course by life’s bizarre sense of humor.
But then again; was it really the dream I was meant to live?
Maybe this has all been for naught, this time of questioning and lack of clear direction.
But I think not. The truth is I have gained much wisdom about this person….the woman…I have always meant to be.
Clearly I began to understand that I couldn’t authentically become the person I had tried to be, the one who would attempt to meet what was expected of her by others.
Clearly living my truths were not where I’ve been.
 I hope that one day I will apply the wisdom, find the clarity and the courage to do so.
Though I don’t mean it to I realize that these words of mine might sound a bit strange; especially to someone who’s maybe never taken a leap without knowing where they’re to fall.  Or if they’ll nail the landing.
 That person I tried to be, the one I had to work so hard to be, was in the end not someone I could reconcile with. Not someone I took pride in.
This shouldn’t be so hard.
 This person; she is not even the real me.
I am an impostor.
 This person is some others’ idea or composition of what they wish I would be.
How did I ever let this happen?
 Why did I ever let go?
I am ashamed of this fake person I have become.
 I’m not comfortable in my own skin..
Authentically living my life I AM NOT!
I know that angry woman who is buried inside is not me.
I have to send her away.
I need to find the peaceful & loving me again.
I think she is still there.
 
ttaylor2016
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One thought on “The Difference Of Four Years & A Certain Grace

  1. My Dear Sister, There is value in yesterday because, only yesterday can bring you to today. Once today arrives, we celebrate as our path to tomorrow is opened before us with every cause we make for an effect.. This is what’s so great. It all has value!

    I now conclude, there were no best of times, worst of times….at all times, moving through life’s long, and valuable journey. That makes them the best of times.

    It was only the best of times that propelled you to a new enlightenment, today.

    Don’t misunderstand. They may not have been the happiest of times but, only the best of times could get you here, right now.

    Cordially,
    As Always,
    Your Brother

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