You Do Not Need A Bruise To Be Abused


Because I advocate and have been my entire adult life against child abuse of any kind please let me say that the need for acknowledgment that domestic abuse of any kind in front of, or in children lives leaves huge scars needs to be addressed much more. No one wants to talk about the children who are living with chaos in their world that leaves chaos in their hearts. Remember they had no say whose Star they were attached to. This is not their choice to live with violence of any kind in their lives. Or to suffer the yelling and hurtful screams by parents who forget in their own anger that their child even is there.  Hurtful, degrading intimidating, bullying, and cruel loud words leave scars just as deep. They are just not as visible as the black eyes,  or as the bruises.

Domestic abuse in front of children is child abuse!  Did you know that?

Of the many web sites designated for Domestic Abuse there are good ones, decent ones, and great ones. Then there are of course some I’d question their agenda. “Healing Wings Retreat’s” web site is a great resource. They are a non – profit organization advocating for the need for abuse to be stopped, maybe even in our life time’s. Can you imagine a world where there would be no one hitting another, no one intimidating another, taking away any hope for any kind of self-esteem.

I hope you’ll visit their site and add your name to mine and others who are pleading for the lives of our mothers, daughter’ sisters, nieces, best friend’s to be saved.  It doesn’t just happen next door.

3 thoughts on “You Do Not Need A Bruise To Be Abused

  1. Good post, Toni. And I know fully that abuse doesn’t need the badge of a bruise to be valid.

    I will visit the site, will add my name. As for abusing in front of kids is child abuse – I only learned when I was obtaining a Family Violence Order this year, that my son had rights to protection also because he HAD WITNESSED the hateful words written on outsides of envelopes, HAD WITNESSED depression deepen, take hold, HAD WITNESSED all effects of me being clawed at through my mind and heart by a family member, who wanted to leave me bleeding – let alone that I should kill myself. To wish someone to kill themselves…. Yes, I now know to abuse in front of children IS child abuse.

    • Awe Noeleen thank you sweetie for stopping by. I miss you and your blog Must say I miss D too hearing all about him

      Thank you for sharing such a deep personal part of you. You are one of the bravest old souls I know and you should know that you have walked the hardest journey i think you will ever have to take. You are over the bad hump if you will, even though I know there are days you wonder.

      Remember sweetie we do the best we can at the time with what we know,. Hindsight is only a new lesson plan in parenting
      That is all you can do. So do not ever beat yourself up for what you did not intend. Not knowing after being raised around this like I was in not a great start to knowing how to be that perfect parent. Which does not exists anyway. So we are going to be perfectly loving parents and that’s the best we can give, and its enough!

      Please be kind to yourself my dear sister, you are hero in my eyes.~.

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